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Sunday, November 20, 2005

7:28PM - Dating advice

There is some good dating advice out there. There is also some bad stuff. Men's dating advice has some particularly awful contingents, including askmen.com. UGH. Sexist CRAP, all of it!!!!!

With such articles as "Are all beautiful women irrational?" and "What if she hangs out with other men?" it is a big fat zero as far as I'm concerned. The primary philosophy is that men need to follow this "system" of challenging a woman in order to get her to be interested in them. It also seems to think that men and women can't be friends, which I tend to disagree with. If you are so immature that you can't be friends, you need to GROW UP.

There is a guy called Carlos Xuma who does a podcast called "Dating Dynamics." He also runs a website by the same name. He usually gives very good advice to men. He tells them that they have to improve their self confidence and self esteem in order to be able to approach women. I find him sexist only on occasion, but mostly he's really good. I hate his website, but I like the podcast and listen weekly. I think it's worth downloading on iTunes (and you don't have to have an iPod in order to listen to podcasts.... you can just listen on the computer.)

So that's men's dating advice. Tomorrow I plan on covering dating advice for women. I think it will be hard to find advice that isn't crap, but I will try.

Current mood: accomplished

Wednesday, July 27, 2005

9:32PM - Hello

I am a 25 year old single female in the Milwaukee area. I love being single and don't want any kids ever. Some of my friends have kids which is cool for them but not the life for me!

Sunday, March 27, 2005

3:47PM - Yessss the community I have been looking for!

Hello All,

I am single and 30 and determined to live a single bitching lifestyle if that's what the fates have in store for me. I live in Savannah, Jahjaw and like concerts, photgraphey, walking around the many squares and parks Savannah has, going out for martinis, reading magazines (I am a magazine whore) shopping, decorating my apartment...

Stop by and say hi. :)

Tuesday, September 14, 2004

4:27PM - hair or no hair! That is the Question

*Blows the dust off the bitchin_singles community*

I am interested to know what the female part of this community thinks about facial hair on guys. Either full beard, mustache, or goatee. Do you like it dislike it or are indifferent.

How is it to kiss a guy that has facial hair vs none?

I am interested to hear what you gals think.

Current mood: curious

Tuesday, August 17, 2004

2:57PM - *waves*

Hi there,

I'm brand new - just found this community while randomly clicking on stuff.

I'm the oldie of the group by the looks of things - 28 and yes - SINGLE! OH MY GOD! Nearly 30 and I still haven't got a husband - shame shame shame :p

I was being sarcastic I hope you realise.

Whenever I tell people my age, they automatically ask "are you married?" Well - first they do the "you don't look 28!" thing, THEN they ask if i'm married. I say "no, I don't even have a boyfriend". They promptly think something must be really wrong with me. They don't SAY it of course, but you can see it churning in their heads.

So... i've been single for about 6 months now - had a 3 year relationship end in Feb this year. I felt like utter crap for ages, but am feeling much better and starting to really enjoy my single-dom. I don't want another relationship at the moment, I think it's time to do some personal growing and things like that.

Rather than getting desperate becuase my 'time is running out' (as my mum so kindly puts it - i'm runnign out of time to meet an eligible guy coz soon i'll be too old...) I am actually getting fussier. I know what I want in a partner and I know what I DONT want in one most importantly.

Anyway :) yeah - i'm rambling. I tend to do that :)

Current mood: okay

Saturday, August 14, 2004

7:38AM - Personal ads -- x posted to my journal

I have to say, personal ads are like, the enemy of romance. They are also the epitome of desperation. Why is everyone on these sites desperate? WTF?

I'm reading personals at http://providence.craigslist.org and getting more and more disgusted with each one I read. I have not placed one since I've become single again and don't plan on it, lest I sound like one of these freaking tools. Here are a few for your reading displeasure. My comments are in normal text. Their drivel is in italics. I've cut this for those who are easily traumatized.

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Current mood: annoyed

Thursday, August 12, 2004

5:34PM

Deeeeeeeeeeeeeeal breakers!
Hello all,

For you, what are the things that would make you stop a date and just walk away? Also, what are the things that for you make someone undatable. In other words, what broke the deal? What are your dealbreakers?

Personal stories are welcome, but I'd also like to see a list of people's personal dealbreakers that they may have never experiened, but nonetheless find abhorrent.

One example of each for you:

One personal experience I have had was having a date tell me he lost respect for a girl he knew in high school because she got pregnant. Yep. Dealbreaker. I cancelled our second date.

A non personal dealbreaker for me would be someone that can't stand female musicians and thinks they can't play. Yep. Dealbreaker.

So what are your dealbreakers?

Current mood: curious

Wednesday, August 11, 2004

4:38PM - What do you qualities do you find attrative?

I was pondering today about what types of qualities I find that I am attracted to in the opposite sex. This is just a short general poll please feel free to add your own thoughts in the comments section.

Poll #334589 What do you qualities do you find attrative in the opposite sex?

Personality

Mean: 9.67 Median: 10 Std. Dev 0.75
1
0(0.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
0(0.0%)
4
0(0.0%)
5
0(0.0%)
6
0(0.0%)
7
0(0.0%)
8
4(16.7%)
9
0(0.0%)
10
20(83.3%)

Emotional Maturity ( doesn't act like a child)

Mean: 8.04 Median: 8.5 Std. Dev 1.72
1
0(0.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
0(0.0%)
4
0(0.0%)
5
4(16.7%)
6
0(0.0%)
7
5(20.8%)
8
3(12.5%)
9
6(25.0%)
10
6(25.0%)

Physical (nice body)

Mean: 6.62 Median: 6.5 Std. Dev 2.12
1
0(0.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
1(4.2%)
4
4(16.7%)
5
3(12.5%)
6
4(16.7%)
7
4(16.7%)
8
3(12.5%)
9
1(4.2%)
10
4(16.7%)

Job (Makes a decent living)

Mean: 6.29 Median: 6.5 Std. Dev 2.17
1
2(8.3%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
1(4.2%)
4
0(0.0%)
5
2(8.3%)
6
7(29.2%)
7
6(25.0%)
8
4(16.7%)
9
0(0.0%)
10
2(8.3%)

Intelligence

Mean: 8.83 Median: 9 Std. Dev 1.07
1
0(0.0%)
2
0(0.0%)
3
0(0.0%)
4
0(0.0%)
5
0(0.0%)
6
1(4.2%)
7
0(0.0%)
8
10(41.7%)
9
4(16.7%)
10
9(37.5%)

Current mood: mellow

Monday, July 26, 2004

8:31AM - ...

Okay now i know it's not bad to be single but does ANYONE ELSE GET ANNOYED WHEN WE HAVE TO LOOK AT PEOPLE TOGETHER CONSTANTLY?!

just wondering -muffin

Current mood: contemplative

Sunday, July 25, 2004

11:25PM - "Oh sweetie, you'll meet the right person someday...."

The words of my mother, among others.

I am so tired of the "oh you poor thing" attitude directed at people who are single. Can't a girl just date interesting people and not need a boyfriend? What is with this rush to get married among the 20-25 set? I go out with friends who used to be interesting and the only topic of conversation is suddenly the size of the ring and when they're going to get it (pauses to consider that this makes friends sound very shallow).

The other favorite reaction is "Oh, you must have had a bad relationship in the past..." Nope. Actually they've all been good guys, and ended amicably. I'm not spending every night weeping into my pillow about a lost love.

WHY ALL THE PITY? I'm happy, so can we all just get on with things?

End rant.

Current mood: pensive

Wednesday, July 21, 2004

10:24AM - introduction...

hi i'm katy and i'm 14 years old (15 in 2 days though) and i've been single my whole life. coco promoted this in my community so i decided to check it out and decided to join. if anyone wants to talk to me they could email me at bloodybaby23@yahoo.com so yea. well that's all i have to say. bye.
~katy

Current mood: indescribable

Tuesday, July 20, 2004

9:25PM

I don't know if anyone else has recently been through a breakup, but I HATEHATEHATE HATE this!

You run into a friend that you haven't seen or talked to in a while and they ask you "Are you still with so and so?"

and you say "no. we broke up in May."

And they get this sad, shattered look on their face like it's the worst thing that could ever happen to anyone, anywhere, and even when you say "It's ok. I'm single and I'm enjoying my freedom and dating around."

They shake their head and look at you and it's clear they don't believe you and that you are making it up and you are torn inside.

FUCK. THAT. NOISE!

I'm the type of person who gets over stuff quickly. I JUST DO. Deal with it. I'm not going to waste 6 months to a year of my life mourning. To me, that would be pointless. I'm going to move on. Sure, sometimes I feel a little sad. But most of the time I know my relationship ended for a reason and I'm happy to be free again. Why is that so damned hard to understand?

I hate it when people think being in a relationship is the only way to be happy. News flash: it's not.

Current mood: annoyed

9:14PM - new member

Hey everyone...just joined this wonderful community

I am a 20 year old pharmacy student and I live in PA close to Philly. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 18 so I haven't had many boyfriends. Currently, pharmacy school is keeping me way too busy to even look for someone, but maybe someone will come along by chance =)

If you look in my journal you will only see one or two entries because I have recently relocated to this lj username. I am always looking for new friends so feel free to add me if you want.

Monday, July 19, 2004

5:31PM - um...rambling about stuff

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Current mood: bouncy

12:22PM - Hi

I just wanted to say Hi real fast. My name is Tysen and I live in Utah. (yes mormon land :-) ) I have been single for about 3 years now. Utah is quite the interesting place, If your not married by 24 your considered an outcast because of the the dominate faith here. I can't complain it's a nice place to live.
I look forward to being apart of this new Community.

Sunday, July 18, 2004

10:13PM

This is James Lewis, a 19-year-old college student from IN. I can be reached at lewisje@indiana.edu

I have often thought that I should be in a relationship because I never have been, but I am starting to realize that it is more in my nature to be alone.

Current mood: sleepy

5:06PM

Hello this is Erika. Welcome to the bitchin' singles community. I'm your mod. I can be reached at erikac@surfy.net should you need me for anything.

A little about me: I'm 22 years old, from MA, and I'm single (obviously). I created this community because I was sick of people indicating that the one thing you should do when you are single is go out and immediately find a new boyfriend/girlfriend. I want to have time for me and my brain, new things, new people, and new experiences. I didn't want to get back into the same, old, blood and brain matter sucking relationship model I was in before.

Please read the userinfo if you are new and happy posting!

Current mood: content